Some of the work

Where you focus your energy and time matters. Are you paying more attention to your past and things that aren't how you want them to be? Or are you focusing on what is going well, how you can keep momentum in the direction of your choosing, the positive and energy generating actions?

You gotta have the juice! Start with solid quality sleep, good nutrition and exercise - physical activity, get moving - everyday! And, know that in every moment you have the ability to change how you feel, change your breathing, your posture and move! Try it now, take a deep breath, sit or stand tall, look around and smile!

Take control of the narrative. The narrative of your life, past, present and future. Someone stood you up. Does that mean they don't like you? Does it mean they are unreliable? Does it mean you get to be gracious and know that sometimes things happen, so you are going to reach out and check on them? In every aspect of you life, you create the meaning. Create a meaning that brings more love, joy and power into your life.

Happy? Strong? Determined? Focused? Committed? Welcoming? Compassionate? Set the stage. Develop the character. Be who you want to be. When you have a project decide - be determined, focused, results oriented. When you are picking up your child from school and want to connect - be open, listen, comfort as needed. Plan ahead of time how you want to show up, and move into situations with intention.

That's right. Question everything. Your beliefs, values, what you thought was good and bad. Your whole world. We made our world view as youngsters, making sense of things early on from the world around us. We had a whole 8 or so years of experience and created rules, determined our values based on 8 (ish) years and and 8 (ish) year old brain. But now, life isn't exactly where we want it, and it is time to overhaul the system and figure out what will work now. You have many more years of experience and a fully developed brain to make sense of things and create new outlooks and outcomes for yourself.

Relationships. Self. Partner. Spouse. Parents. Children. Relatives. Friends. Coworkers. Grocery clerk. Bank teller. In person. On the phone. On Zoom. They are everywhere. They are always. And they matter. How are you showing up in your relationships? What are you giving to your relationships? What are you getting out of your relationships? What are you getting away with in relationships?